Funny title, huh? It comes from a scene in the Muppets movie where Gary questions what’s important. It’s a great song and it was the first thing that came to mind when I viewed the following clip with Musician J. Cole as he describes his social media challenges.
It’s candid and hopefully, his transparency can help others. I was drawn to its authenticity because I too challenged myself when I start to feel an unhealthy attachment to something. I once had an addiction to sports radio. It consumed so much of my time. Every minute in the car was dedicated to it. Until one day I questioned the best use of my time. At that point, I stopped listening to sports talk radio for an entire year. It was refreshing. I’ve since done mini challenges like going without T.V. or coffee for weeks on end. I just feel like I have to challenge myself in that way from time to time. When I reflect back, I think, why did I care so much about other people’s opinion on sporting events or athletes when it doesn’t affect my life one way or the other. Upon my realization, I first felt anger. Anger because I felt like I lost time, something that can’t be replaced. I felt like I wasted energy and space in my brain on something so inconsequential. Next, I felt excitement. I was excited about what I could do and learn when I replaced sports talk radio. I got into a podcast and found some really interesting and encouraging ones on business. My favs are “The Secret to Success” & “How I Built This”.
I had to acknowledge that I was captive before I could free myself. It’s a process. Here are some steps you can take to unhinge yourself from some unhealthy habits. I’m primarily speaking to social media or tech addictions (the elephant in the room) but this could help with anything and everything.
- Self-actualize – tell yourself the truth and acknowledge your dependency to a “thing”, both emotionally and physically.
- Decide – What is the pull to this “thing” pulling me from? Ask yourself these simple questions, A. is this the best use of my time and resources? B. What need is this fulfilling?
- Execute – After you decide to move forward without the shackles, execute on the plan to reduce or completely eliminate the hindrance. How does that look: if it’s too much social media, turn off notifications to start. If it’s pornography, put security features on your computers and phone. The best defense is a good offense. Strategically attack the issue, and be deliberate. Plan to fill time with a new healthy habit that the bad habit would have occupied.
Benjamin Franklin – “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.”
Until next time…